Have you ever accomplished a goal only to feel disappointed? Have you found yourself setting goals and creating detailed plans without taking action?
Yep, been there done that.
Hi this is Maria, a former goal junkie. And for me, first came the realisation that striving & accomplishing goals didn’t bring me much joy. But I didn’t know another way so I kept going at it…
Then my inner self started rebelling “what’s the point of accomplishing another goal if it won’t make me happy? Let’s just procrastinate instead.”
But of course I hadn’t realised what was going on, so instead of tending to the problem (dear self why are you rebelling?), I kept trying to find ways to motivate myself (you can do this, you can do this), including hiring a business a biz coach to give me a kick in the butt (which I didn’t need and…oh dear that backfired big time), conditioning myself (just visualise your success like athletes do), writing my goals every day (1,2,3), keeping saying to myself “no excuses, no excuses,” doing vision boards (cut, glue, set), and just pushing, striving & doing, doing, doing.
And then CRASH, meltdown, depression…because I was treating the surface problem not the deep rooted one.
The problem is not having goals per se, because goals can help us cultivate and grow what’s important to us. The problem lies in the kind of goals we set, which we often borrow from other people or internalise them from society telling us what we should be doing.
We deprive ourselves the knowing that comes from deep inside, creating a gap between who we are and who we should become.
But what if we looked inside instead of outside?
What if we moved from pushing & striving to be who we “should” be to allowing who we are to flourish?
Imagine the peace and contentment this approach could bring to our lives.
So what if you stopped trying to change yourself?
- You gave yourself permission to be who you are.
- You focused on deeply understanding your personality, values & strengths.
- You accomplished goals that mattered, and were meaningful to you; not to anyone else, but you.
I think that’s worth it.
What do you think?
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