Category: Daily Thought

Have you ever accomplished a goal only to feel disappointed? Have you found yourself setting goals and creating detailed plans without taking action?

Yep, been there done that.

Hi this is Maria, a former goal junkie. And for me, first came the realisation that striving & accomplishing goals didn’t bring me much joy. But I didn’t know another way so I kept going at it…

Then my inner self started rebelling “what’s the point of accomplishing another goal if it won’t make me happy? Let’s just procrastinate instead.”

But of course I hadn’t realised what was going on, so instead of tending to the problem (dear self why are you rebelling?), I kept trying to find ways to motivate myself (you can do this, you can do this), including hiring a business a biz coach to give me a kick in the butt (which I didn’t need and…oh dear that backfired big time), conditioning myself (just visualise your success like athletes do), writing my goals every day (1,2,3), keeping saying to myself “no excuses, no excuses,” doing vision boards (cut, glue, set), and just pushing, striving & doing, doing, doing.

And then CRASH, meltdown, depression…because I was treating the surface problem not the deep rooted one.  

The problem is not having goals per se, because goals can help us cultivate and grow what’s important to us. The problem lies in the kind of goals we set, which we often borrow from other people or internalise them from society telling us what we should be doing.

We deprive ourselves the knowing that comes from deep inside, creating a gap between who we are and who we should become.

But what if we looked inside instead of outside?

What if we moved from pushing & striving to be who we “should” be to allowing who we are to flourish? 

Imagine the peace and contentment this approach could bring to our lives.

Yes liking yourself is a rebellious act.

What if 2017 was the year you stopped trying to change yourself?

and instead…

  • You gave yourself permission to be who you are.
  • You focused on deeply understanding your personality, values & strengths.
  • You accomplished goals that mattered, and were meaningful to you; not to anyone else, but you.

I think that’s worth it.

What do you think? Shall we be rebellious this year?

Love,
Maria

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In today’s world of instant gratification, we might get discouraged when we don’t see immediate success. But we need to remember that moving slowly is ok as long as we keep going!

We’ve come to expect instant success, because that’s all we hear about in the media {and see in perfectly polished social media accounts}. It’s always the stories of overnight success that seem to pop up. Unfortunately we rarely hear the “after 10 years of laborious work” or “after consistent action day in and day out” stories.

Take Eat Pray Love {book and movie} for example. What do we know about Elizabeth Gilbert’s success story? She was unhappy, hoped on a plane, visited three countries, discovered who she was, wrote a book and boom she was an instant access. Very few actually know that she was already an established writer with a few books under her belt, and she got a publishing agent to buy the rights of the future book and gave her money upfront to finance her amazing adventure. So yes Gilbert did have a huge success with this book, but she was already a travel writer for years.

I am not saying that overnight success does not happen. It can happen, but it doesn’t happen as often as we seem to think.

And I am not here to preach. In fact, I am guilty of this too. Actually, it feels like I am writing this post more for myself than anyone else! I used to have these vicious cycles that would start with working really really hard, and then I’d collapse when I didn’t see immediate results. I would get very discouraged and feel like a complete failure. And then it would take me ages until I could lift myself up again and get motivated to keep going.

For me it’s a habit engrained from my school days when I used to study really hard at the last minute, cramming it all in, having all-nighters to write that paper or to study for the finals and actually doing pretty well for a few days work. So once I realised this, I decided I had to change it. And when I came across this quote it was such a revelation. I needed to switch from being a sprinter to being a marathon runner.

Don’t get me wrong, I still catch myself saying {mostly while scrolling through Instagram} “why am I still not there?” with “there” being whatever I am working at the moment. But now {most of the times} I have a quick wake up call, turn Instagram off and get back to work.

So what I am trying to say is this: don’t get discouraged.  Don’t give up. Keep going and you will get there. Just keep going.

“It does not matter how slow you go as long as you don’t stop.” Confucius

 

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We read, We travel, We become. Derek Walcott, “The Prodigal”

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Today I am thankful. And everyday!

 

Every morning presents a new opportunity, a new beginning, a fresh start.

It sounds trite, but it’s true. Because whatever happened yesterday today is a new day.

So before you get out of bed in the morning, spend a few minutes thinking about this new day.

Set an intention.

How do you want this day to be?

What word would you choose to describe it?

What feeling do you want this day to have?

Smile, rise and enjoy your day!


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